Before I quit working full time, I thought staying at home with the kids all day was going to be all sunshine and rainbows. I thought I would be able to relax all day in pajama’s, catch up on my shows or watch some Netflix, play with the kids, and be completely stress free. Well let me say, I was wrong. Staying at home may be harder than working full time (at least in my opinion). There’s no doubt that it’s more rewarding because I get all day with my children, but it’s definitely work; lots and lots of work. One thing I learned while staying home is there is not enough hours in the day. Trying to juggle raising two wild children while keeping up on house work, is a challenge. Let me tell you…
When my second child was born I was lucky enough to be able to stay at home with my kids during the day. My husband was able take over all bill payments, so that we didn’t have to fork out an extra grand a month for childcare for our daughter.
I’m quite sure that I only get to sit about two hours out of the whole day, if that. My day must start with coffee, or nothing gets accomplished, so as soon as Liliana gets up she gets a bottle and I get some coffee. I do get to relax for maybe 15 minutes while she plays then my hectic day begins.
My son gets up every day around 7:15AM, so he can get ready for Preschool. Once he’s up, I start making him breakfast. While he is eating I make his lunch, pick out the kid’s outfits, and get Liliana ready. Once he’s done eating I get him ready, myself ready (if there is any time), and off to Preschool he goes. It’s about a 20-minute drive to Preschool, so I’m in the car driving for about an hour and a half a day, just to get him to and from daycare, but I love where he goes so I’d never choose somewhere closer, it’s worth the drive. He goes to a small Preschool in Maryland that he and I just love. The teachers are phenomenal, the kids are so intelligent and full of life. I can’t even begin to express how much my son has learned there. He’s only there for half a day so there is only 3 hours in between dropping him off and picking him up.
Once Liliana and I get back home she’s usually hungry, so I make her some food and feed her, then give her the rest of her bottle. For some reason, she refuses to hold her bottle, so usually I need to hold it for her. During that time, I try to get some breakfast in for me. Between all the baby shenanigans, you can’t forget the laundry, dirty dishes, what’s getting made for dinner, making phone calls, going to preschool events and meetings, running errands, and most importantly cleaning the house.
For me to get those household duties completed, cartoons must be on the TV 24/7 or Liliana wants Mommy. There goes the whole catching up on shows or watching Netflix theory I had in the beginning of this SAHM journey. I’m pretty sure I can recite every song from the show she watches. I’m not sure if other moms have heard of it, but she is glued to ‘Little Baby Bum’ on Netflix. It’s just a bunch of nursery rhymes that play for about two hours with a bunch of characters. She absolutely loves it. Without that show, getting household chores done would be impossible.
Before I know it, we need to head back out the door to go pick up Kyle. Within the three-hour time frame, I usually manage to get done my workout, the dishes and one load of laundry. Usually on Mondays, I’ll be able to get my meal prepping in, then another day out of the week I go to the grocery store, which I must do while my son is in school because this mama is not doing a grocery trip with two crazy kiddos unless Daddy is with me! There are also our Target trips, which could easily last a good hour.
Once Kyle is home, it’s nearly impossible to keep the house clean. I clean up the same toys every single day, I usually just want to give up on cleaning his room. It’s like a daily cycle for us moms. Coffee, get the kids to school, get the baby fed, clean up toys, dinner, repeat. Those are the last things I want to do, and it always feels like I never have enough time in the day to just play with my little ones, so you always need to make sure you make time for that also. Sometimes the household duties can be put on pause. It’s a never-ending battle between playing and cleaning.
I don’t know about ya’ll but my kids already love to torment each other. It has already begun, and Liliana is only ten months old! I usually don’t have a voice by the end of the night after all the yelling I do. Maybe that’s why I’m a lover of wine. Kyle loves taking toys from her, then tries to suck up to her after taking them by telling her it’s okay. Then he’ll get very lovable towards her, hugging and kissing her continuously, which makes her scream since he’s in the way of her cartoons which then makes her pull at his face, and he starts his whining. These two loves each other so much, but annoy each other at the same time. They are my sour patch kids, I can’t help but adore them, but I’m pretty sure I can hear their screams in my sleep.
This is all exactly why I LOVE crock pot meals. They simplify dinner, yet taste so delicious. If my kids and husband eat it, I am satisfied. I must say though; my husband is the best cook in the household. He has me beat, which I honestly am SO grateful for because he loves to cook sometimes, which is a huge weight off my shoulders. We all then know once dinner is over, it’s the baths and getting ready for bed. I am lucky enough that both my kids love bath time, so that is a breeze (thank goodness, because by that time I am ready to crash).
Once the babies are in bed, my day doesn’t end. We need to fold laundry, wash even more dishes from dinner, I make my husband’s lunch for the next day, then I try to have some quality time with my husband before we both crash, which isn’t long at all. Did I forget to mention that I work some evenings for a few hours to pay for Kyle’s preschool?! Yeah, sometimes I feel like supermom, and sometimes I feel like I don’t have my shit together, and I’m a hot mess. One of the hardest adjustments for me becoming a stay at home mom is not having my own income. Yes, I work sometimes, but that pays for daycare. My husband is my life saver, he is the provider of the income, he is the reason I’m with my babies all day and he always makes sure we are taken care of.
I’m am a walking zombie most days, but the stay at home mom life is for me. It is FAR from easy, and you should never underestimate a stay at home mom. We don’t work 9-5, we work sun up to sun down. We have our good and our bad days. We struggle sometimes and can barely get through the day, and our house stays a mess. Most days I am ready to pull my hair out, but being with my kids all the time makes it completely worth it. I don’t have to worry about missing time with them or question what they are up too. They are always there with me every step of the way, through the good and the bad. I honestly don’t know how I did it with my son working full time. I do praise you moms with full time jobs, I couldn’t see myself away from my babies that long out of the day anymore. They grow way too quickly and the stress of having a clean house is fine by me. I would easily take over all the household responsibilities just so the kids are with me all day long. I am blessed to have such an amazing husband who works his butt off to give us what we have today. No matter if you’re a full time working mom, or a full time stay at home mom. We ALL bust our booty’s to keep our family going, and us moms should all stick together and NEVER judge another mom because our lifestyle is different. We can all learn from each other, and that’s one thing I enjoy about being a mommy blogger. No mom’s life is easier then the other, we all want to raise our babies to be successful adults, and that’s a challenge in itself.