What Mom’s Truly Want for Mother’s Day

We all know that us mothers love anything we get from our kids on Mother’s Day. The homemade cards and crafts, beautiful flowers, a gift card to the spa. Trust me they are all great, but if we had the chance to truly say what we really wanted, aside from the traditional gifts, I think we can all agree to the list I’ve created below.

We can always dream, right?!

 Mother’s Day or not, I’m sure we’re still ready to pull our hair out at times because the kids won’t stop complaining or you’ve already heard “Mommy” for the umpteenth time. Those flowers look pretty in that vase on the counter, but you still have to clean up the house at the end of the day that the kids destroyed with their Barbie dolls and LEGO’s.

Well… here’s a few of my not so ‘traditional’ gifts that I think we can all agree sound lovely as a mother.

 

Sleep. All hail sleeping! If I could go a week straight with 8 hours of solid sleep each night I would feel like a whole new woman. No interruptions, no crying at night, no dogs stealing my spot in bed. I’d be one happy Mama. Maybe not even a week, give me the weekend, or even one simple night. That’s all I really need.

One. Night.

Coffee automatically made, just the way I like it. If I could walk downstairs to my Keurig each morning with a fresh 12oz coffee made with a splash of caramel almond milk creamer and two Stevia’s, my mornings would run so much more smoothly. Between waking the kids up, getting them fed, and the getting the oldest ready for Pre-K, coffee is usually the last thing that gets done before rushing out the door. Or it just gets forgotten in general and that ride to Pre-K is excruciating.

Childcare in Target. I think we ALL can agree on this one! How amazing would it be to just walk into Target, drop the kids off at the childcare center and be able to shop… ALONE. I know I’d be a fan, and it would definitely make me visit more often if that meant the kids could get their energy out while playing as I did my shopping. I just hope my husband is ready for multiple shopping sprees going on the bank card.

For the kids to actually ask Dad. Oh, you know, instead of the kids completely walking past dad, who’s just lying on the couch watch sports and asking mom to fix a toy while she’s in the kitchen making dinner for everyone, they stop and see if dad can do it first. We all know that mommy is wonder women, but daddy can do it too. We promise. He is fully capable of just about anything.

For the kids to listen the first time around. Instead of asking for the 18th time to put their shoes on in the morning, they do it the first time asked. Or, when you tell them it’s bed time, they go right in bed and go to sleep instead of insisting they are thirsty or hungry, or need to use the bathroom even though they just used it five minutes ago.

A clean home. To wake up to a clean house every morning is probably a dream for everyone, not only us mothers. Why can’t there be little magical fairies that come into our home every night to clean and prepare for the next day. They’d get a hefty tip from me, no doubt about it.

A hot steamy uninterrupted bath. Just give me thirty minutes in the tub without my little ones throwing in their rubber duckies or yelling in the other room that they need help with something. Some peace and quiet while soaking in the tub with a LUSH bath bomb sounds absolutely wonderful.

 

I would love to put together a survey and get the opinions of other mothers to see what they’d truly want for Mother’s Day compared to the traditional gifts we receive each year. Let me hear them!

Happy Mother’s Day to all you wonderful mama’s!

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Tips to Help a Jealous Older Sibling.

 

Before I met my husband and we had our daughter, it was just my son and me. He was the only baby. He didn’t have to share me with anyone, share his toys, his grandparents, nothing. My only concern was him and only him, so he became a big mama’s boy, and to this day he is glued to my hip. I knew it would be a little tough bringing another child into the world.

When our daughter first came home from the hospital our son was so excited. He was eager to have a playmate, a best friend, a little sister. He was doing a great job with adding a new addition to the family and having to share mommy. Until he started to realize that she was here for good, and that he wasn’t mommy’s only baby anymore.

Why can’t we give her back”

“Do I seriously need to share my mom now”

“I thought I was your only baby”

Even for me the change was tough, I couldn’t imagine how it was for him. I got it, I understood. I knew it had to be tough so a big concern for me was figuring out how to make him never feel any less important than his little sister. I wanted him to know that they were both my babies.

From the day she was born and still to this day he is the most loving and caring big brother to his little sister, but he has his jealous moments, as I’m sure all older siblings do. He tries to act like a baby towards me thinking it will get my attention more, which I time and time again inform him that he is the big brother, he shouldn’t act like that and he needs to show his sissy how much of a big boy he is. There are times where he is a little too rough with her, and I need to inform him that hitting her isn’t the right thing to do.

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After experiencing this as a mother of two, I wanted to share some pointers that I have been working on to help refrain my son from getting jealous towards his little sister.

Give them their alone time with you. This is one I try to do weekly. Children enjoy one on one time with their parents. I try to do some activities with son by himself. We’ll go to the playground or make a craft together. We’ll try to do something that our daughter isn’t old enough to do yet, so I can show him that being a big brother can be fun because he can do some things that only big kids can do.

Teach them. Children learn through experimenting. You certainly don’t want them to experiment by hitting the baby and realizing that they are hurting them so encourage them to be gentle with the baby. Teach them to hug the baby softly, gently hold their fingers, or rub their feet. Let them know that a baby is fragile, and they aren’t as strong as them yet. Also let them know, that sharing is a good thing and just like they should share their toys they also should share mommy and daddy.

Never blame the baby. You don’t want your older child to think they can’t do something because their little brother or sister ruined it. You don’t want to tell them they couldn’t go to park because their sibling has a doctor’s appointment. Explain to them that you must run some errands first before going to play. You never want your older child to look at the younger one as a ‘burden’.

Involve them. Always try to involve the older sibling while taking care of the younger one. If you are about to feed them a bottle, have them help you hold it up. If it’s bath time, have the older sibling pick out the bath toy for them and help you wash them. If the baby is fussy, see if they can help get them to laugh. Having them do things together can help their bond grow stronger.

Give them praise. Support them. Let them know they are doing a great job at being a big brother or sister. Tell them they are doing a wonderful job when they help you out with the baby, and that you can see them becoming the best of friends. Reassure them that it’s fun being a big boy or girl, but also express how much you love them and that you understand it’s a big change in their life.

Don’t try to “fix” their negative emotions. Instead of insisting that their emotions aren’t real, try to understand how they feel. Show sympathy, but attempt to turn it into a positive outlook. Let them know that you understand how they feel but their little brother or sister loves them very much and needs them to help them grow up to be big like them. Also be sure to let them know that their help is really helpful to Mommy and Daddy and that you are very proud of them. You never want them to feel like they are wrong for feeling the way they do.

Never Compare. You don’t want your older sibling to think that you love the younger sibling more. So comments such as “you should be sleeping like your sister” or “see how they are being good” shouldn’t be said to big brother or sister. I’ve tried to refrain from those kind of remarks all together, even as they both get older.

These few tips have helped my son really enjoy his role as the big brother. Him and his little sister have built such a strong bond since the first day we brought her home. He still has his moments of jealousy, but just those few simple pointers has helped him tremendously along the way.

I hope they can provide some help for you other mama’s out there too!

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Valentine’s Day 2018!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Although we show love in this house every single day of the year, we make Valentine‘s Day just a teeny bit more special. Hubby and I never really go all out, we know how much we love each other, so it’s usually flowers and fruit for Mommy and something little for Daddy. Kyle usually picks out something beer related, which of course happened again this year, lol. The kids picked him out a frosted mug for the summer time.

This year we’re both fighting off a bunch of sickness, so our Valentine’s Day dinner will most likely be soups. We’re totally okay with that. Getting dressed up and going to a nice dinner isn’t quite our thing. 

The kiddo’s got their little goodies which usually includes a small stuffed animal, a little bit of chocolate, and some small knick knacks. We never get too extravagant with gifts on smaller holidays. Christmas is when we usually go all out. Kyle and I also prepared his Valentine’s cards for Preschool last night. Paw Patrol of course. He’s super excited to hand them out, he loves giving to his friends in school.

One thing I did decide to do this year was get the kids some Valentine’s Day photos done. Once I saw how much my little girl loved being in front of the camera, I had to do it! She just comes to life and shows that personality like no tomorrow. I love it! Kyle on the other hand gets a little shy, but I am so proud of how well he did and how good he was with his sister during the session. Another huge shout out to Taylor Mrozinski Photography. You capture my children so wonderfully, I can’t ever thank you enough!

Here they are, my beautiful, spunky, crazy little babies. Of course Liliana needed a shirt to let all the boys know she’s never allowed to date, ever. I can’t wait for the first day a boy gives her a Valentine’s Day gift. Daddy is going to be all over that situation. I can see him now, sitting on his Harley, trying to scare the crap out of this poor young boy. Bless her heart, she’s in for some fun with him, lol.

Aren’t they just the cutest! I’m so over the moon with how these photo’s turned out. I have some happy, loving children.

Now go share the love, and sprinkle that kindness to everyone you see today!

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One Magical Day. Unicorn Birthday Party!

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As you all know, my little princess turned one this past week! We had her party yesterday, and it was such an amazing time. Her magical theme was unicorns, and I can’t even begin to explain how perfect everything turned out. We had the house jam packed with family and friends, it was such an insane turnout!

I was waiting for what seemed like forever for this day to come, so decorating was one of my favorite parts. We used streamers and balloons to make her color themed rainbow, and added the “I Believe In” unicorn sign. This was the main design for the party.

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Instead of making goodie bags full of candy for the kids, we went a different route. We decided to have a cotton candy and sand art station. Each little one was able to make some delicious cotton candy and create their own little sand art piece! We had sports balls for the boys and star necklaces for the girls. It was probably one my favorite parts, even the adults loved it!

Her cake and cupcakes were fantastic. We had the same lady who designed her smash cake create her cake and cupcakes for today. HUGE shoutout to Farmhouse Cakes for the amazingly beautiful sweets! I just love how beautiful her cake and cupcakes were. I am so lucky to have found such an amazing baker!

There were some extra sweets we added into the mix including a big bowl of color themed M&M’s and handmade unicorn and number one cookies, which were absolutely delicious!

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I also had my other DIY decorations including her name sign, high chair banner, and her photo banner of each month of her first year!

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You also can’t forget all the cute little odds and ends I incorporated into the mix! This included her color themed plates, cups, and utensils. Along with adorable unicorn napkins and drinking straws! I must also mention the adorable mason jars that were holding the untensils.

One of my favorite parts of her party was her photo board! Everyone loved it! It was so easy to create and I will definitely be making these for multiple parties to come.

The family all had unicorn shirts on.

Mommy, Daddy, & Big Brother all had to match the birthday girl! So many compliments on these shirts. Etsy for the win!

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(Of course our family photo’s are never perfect, lol)

We also have to give a shout out to Liliana’s Godparents for creating her very own Snapchat filter for the day and getting her the most beautiful pearl bracelet with her first initial on it.

I can’t thank everyone enough for all the love that was shown to our little girl yesterday. The overwhelming amount of guests and gifts Liliana received was incredible. I think you can tell by the look on her face below that she LOVED every single gift. She is one loved little princess.

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