What Mom’s Truly Want for Mother’s Day

We all know that us mothers love anything we get from our kids on Mother’s Day. The homemade cards and crafts, beautiful flowers, a gift card to the spa. Trust me they are all great, but if we had the chance to truly say what we really wanted, aside from the traditional gifts, I think we can all agree to the list I’ve created below.

We can always dream, right?!

 Mother’s Day or not, I’m sure we’re still ready to pull our hair out at times because the kids won’t stop complaining or you’ve already heard “Mommy” for the umpteenth time. Those flowers look pretty in that vase on the counter, but you still have to clean up the house at the end of the day that the kids destroyed with their Barbie dolls and LEGO’s.

Well… here’s a few of my not so ‘traditional’ gifts that I think we can all agree sound lovely as a mother.

 

Sleep. All hail sleeping! If I could go a week straight with 8 hours of solid sleep each night I would feel like a whole new woman. No interruptions, no crying at night, no dogs stealing my spot in bed. I’d be one happy Mama. Maybe not even a week, give me the weekend, or even one simple night. That’s all I really need.

One. Night.

Coffee automatically made, just the way I like it. If I could walk downstairs to my Keurig each morning with a fresh 12oz coffee made with a splash of caramel almond milk creamer and two Stevia’s, my mornings would run so much more smoothly. Between waking the kids up, getting them fed, and the getting the oldest ready for Pre-K, coffee is usually the last thing that gets done before rushing out the door. Or it just gets forgotten in general and that ride to Pre-K is excruciating.

Childcare in Target. I think we ALL can agree on this one! How amazing would it be to just walk into Target, drop the kids off at the childcare center and be able to shop… ALONE. I know I’d be a fan, and it would definitely make me visit more often if that meant the kids could get their energy out while playing as I did my shopping. I just hope my husband is ready for multiple shopping sprees going on the bank card.

For the kids to actually ask Dad. Oh, you know, instead of the kids completely walking past dad, who’s just lying on the couch watch sports and asking mom to fix a toy while she’s in the kitchen making dinner for everyone, they stop and see if dad can do it first. We all know that mommy is wonder women, but daddy can do it too. We promise. He is fully capable of just about anything.

For the kids to listen the first time around. Instead of asking for the 18th time to put their shoes on in the morning, they do it the first time asked. Or, when you tell them it’s bed time, they go right in bed and go to sleep instead of insisting they are thirsty or hungry, or need to use the bathroom even though they just used it five minutes ago.

A clean home. To wake up to a clean house every morning is probably a dream for everyone, not only us mothers. Why can’t there be little magical fairies that come into our home every night to clean and prepare for the next day. They’d get a hefty tip from me, no doubt about it.

A hot steamy uninterrupted bath. Just give me thirty minutes in the tub without my little ones throwing in their rubber duckies or yelling in the other room that they need help with something. Some peace and quiet while soaking in the tub with a LUSH bath bomb sounds absolutely wonderful.

 

I would love to put together a survey and get the opinions of other mothers to see what they’d truly want for Mother’s Day compared to the traditional gifts we receive each year. Let me hear them!

Happy Mother’s Day to all you wonderful mama’s!

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Tips to Help a Jealous Older Sibling.

 

Before I met my husband and we had our daughter, it was just my son and me. He was the only baby. He didn’t have to share me with anyone, share his toys, his grandparents, nothing. My only concern was him and only him, so he became a big mama’s boy, and to this day he is glued to my hip. I knew it would be a little tough bringing another child into the world.

When our daughter first came home from the hospital our son was so excited. He was eager to have a playmate, a best friend, a little sister. He was doing a great job with adding a new addition to the family and having to share mommy. Until he started to realize that she was here for good, and that he wasn’t mommy’s only baby anymore.

Why can’t we give her back”

“Do I seriously need to share my mom now”

“I thought I was your only baby”

Even for me the change was tough, I couldn’t imagine how it was for him. I got it, I understood. I knew it had to be tough so a big concern for me was figuring out how to make him never feel any less important than his little sister. I wanted him to know that they were both my babies.

From the day she was born and still to this day he is the most loving and caring big brother to his little sister, but he has his jealous moments, as I’m sure all older siblings do. He tries to act like a baby towards me thinking it will get my attention more, which I time and time again inform him that he is the big brother, he shouldn’t act like that and he needs to show his sissy how much of a big boy he is. There are times where he is a little too rough with her, and I need to inform him that hitting her isn’t the right thing to do.

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After experiencing this as a mother of two, I wanted to share some pointers that I have been working on to help refrain my son from getting jealous towards his little sister.

Give them their alone time with you. This is one I try to do weekly. Children enjoy one on one time with their parents. I try to do some activities with son by himself. We’ll go to the playground or make a craft together. We’ll try to do something that our daughter isn’t old enough to do yet, so I can show him that being a big brother can be fun because he can do some things that only big kids can do.

Teach them. Children learn through experimenting. You certainly don’t want them to experiment by hitting the baby and realizing that they are hurting them so encourage them to be gentle with the baby. Teach them to hug the baby softly, gently hold their fingers, or rub their feet. Let them know that a baby is fragile, and they aren’t as strong as them yet. Also let them know, that sharing is a good thing and just like they should share their toys they also should share mommy and daddy.

Never blame the baby. You don’t want your older child to think they can’t do something because their little brother or sister ruined it. You don’t want to tell them they couldn’t go to park because their sibling has a doctor’s appointment. Explain to them that you must run some errands first before going to play. You never want your older child to look at the younger one as a ‘burden’.

Involve them. Always try to involve the older sibling while taking care of the younger one. If you are about to feed them a bottle, have them help you hold it up. If it’s bath time, have the older sibling pick out the bath toy for them and help you wash them. If the baby is fussy, see if they can help get them to laugh. Having them do things together can help their bond grow stronger.

Give them praise. Support them. Let them know they are doing a great job at being a big brother or sister. Tell them they are doing a wonderful job when they help you out with the baby, and that you can see them becoming the best of friends. Reassure them that it’s fun being a big boy or girl, but also express how much you love them and that you understand it’s a big change in their life.

Don’t try to “fix” their negative emotions. Instead of insisting that their emotions aren’t real, try to understand how they feel. Show sympathy, but attempt to turn it into a positive outlook. Let them know that you understand how they feel but their little brother or sister loves them very much and needs them to help them grow up to be big like them. Also be sure to let them know that their help is really helpful to Mommy and Daddy and that you are very proud of them. You never want them to feel like they are wrong for feeling the way they do.

Never Compare. You don’t want your older sibling to think that you love the younger sibling more. So comments such as “you should be sleeping like your sister” or “see how they are being good” shouldn’t be said to big brother or sister. I’ve tried to refrain from those kind of remarks all together, even as they both get older.

These few tips have helped my son really enjoy his role as the big brother. Him and his little sister have built such a strong bond since the first day we brought her home. He still has his moments of jealousy, but just those few simple pointers has helped him tremendously along the way.

I hope they can provide some help for you other mama’s out there too!

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Mom-Shaming, How is That Even a Thing?

This is probably more of a venting post for me, but I want my opinion to be heard on this because I’ve been seeing a lot of it lately and my main question is

 What’s the freakin’ point of it?!

 

It’s mind blowing to think that mom-shaming is actually a thing in today’s world. Last time I checked, we are all in this together and we all have one goal, to raise our children to be sweet, respectful, successful teenagers and adults. The way that mothers actually put forth an effort to let down other mothers these days is disgusting and frustrating to say the least. What makes you think you’re better than any other mother? Well guess what, you’re not.

Whether you decide to breast feed or formula feed, co-sleep or strictly put them in their crib, work full time or stay at home, have a cesarean birth or natural birth, send your child to daycare or keeping them home, feed them strictly organic food or McDonald’s Happy Meals. WHO CARES.

Why should any other mothers parenting style affect you enough to make nasty comments about it? You would think the maturity of a mother would be above that. We should be supporting each other and learning from each other, not bashing others and trying to be the better mom. Your child will always think you are the best mom out there, because you are their only mom, you’re the one who loves them more than life itself.

I recently had a remark made about my children’s Valentine’s Day photo preview.

“Why wouldn’t you put shoes on your child for their photos”

Hmm, well you know what, maybe my child doesn’t enjoy wearing shoes or considering that I know my child more than anyone else especially another mom-shamer, I know she would just constantly mess with her shoes and I wouldn’t get a good photo out of her. She is ONE, and she looks cute as hell with or without shoes on. If it bothers you that much, that you must go out of your way to comment about it, WHY LOOK. It’s freaking shoes ya’ll, SHOES! Do you seriously have that much time to analyze my photo’s that much? Ignore it, and go about your day worrying about more important things, or at least say something positive!

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(In case you all were wondering how “ridiculous” my child looks barefoot)

The difference is with mom-shamers and the actual mother is we know our children and our everyday lifestyle, quite well actually. (super shocking huh?!)

You just think you know our children and lifestyle.

I am so fed up with other mothers who think it’s okay to go out of their way to criticize someone else’s child just to make them look better. Or attempt to put down another mom, and assume they don’t know what they’re talking about just because their entire life isn’t posted on social media for attention. How could you even go about your day happily knowing you were throwing negative comments out about an innocent CHILD.

How do you even have the time for it?

My life is crazy with two kiddos, bless your heart.

Does it seriously make you feel like a better mother when you shame another mom while hiding behind a computer screen? Do you think it makes your children look better? Do you think it makes you look better? Please tell me, I’d LOVE to know the point of mom-shaming. Because in my eyes, it’s a pathetic, selfless way or showing you are insecure about your own self.

To all of you mothers out there throwing kindness around like glitter to all of us other mama’s trying our hardest each and every day, you’re the real MVP. That’s how grown, mature, adult mothers should be living their lives. Sometimes a confidence boost is what a mother needs during a stressful day, even if it’s different from your parenting style. It’s incredible the amount of criticism I see today on social media. I’ve witnessed it personally and I’ve seen it given to other mothers.

We’ve all made mistakes, we’ve all done things we regret, we’ve all wished we could have changed something, and I’m damn sure we’ve all had made comments about other parenting styles while at the playground or walking around the mall, I’m guilty of it, but the biggest thing about it is KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. It doesn’t make you look any better as a mother or human being by expressing your negative comments, if anything it makes you look like a damn fool, and hiding behind a computer screen, making nasty comments doesn’t make it any better than criticizing someone in person. It’s a shame.

#EndRant

#SorryNotSorry

#SayNoToMomShaming

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What I’ve Learned From Becoming a Mother

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When I became a mother, my entire life changed. During my first pregnancy I thought motherhood would be a breeze. I thought I knew it all and I was one hundred percent prepared.

“I read the baby books, I’m good”

Yeah… nope. I wasn’t good. I learned so much once my son was born, and even more when my daughter came along. Motherhood is one crazy, intense adventure. You will never have it all figured out. Every day of motherhood is completely different and your kids will always surprise you.

Here’s some things of what I’ve learned along the way! I’m sure you mama’s out there can all relate.

  • Silence is not Golden. If you have a toddler, you’ll understand. Unless they are sleeping at night, do not underestimate the silence. Chances are they into something they are definitely not supposed to be into!
  • Your house will never stay “magazine” clean. Let’s just be real. Little ones get into everything! They drop food on the floor, pull out every toy possible, put their fingers all over your windows. Trust me, I clean up multiple times a day to make my house look good enough. But, it will never be spotless.
  • Toys are pointless. I have bought numerous toys for my children over the years, and what do they play with? Tupperware, boxes, cups, etc. Half of their toys just lay around or eventually get packed up in boxes. I certainly don’t recommend going overboard with toys. If they want a new toy, tell them they should donate one first to another child who’s in need of toys.
  • Everything happens at the worst times. When we’re running late and rushing out the door, guess who decides to blow out her diaper last minute? Or my toddler, who decides to vomit in the car when we’re going somewhere that requires him to wear nice clothes. Always make sure you are prepared because anything can happen! I always pack extra, or give myself extra time.
  • Sleep is non-existent. Seriously, it’s not. You may think waking up every few hours only happens in the beginning, but no. There is the teething, the stuffy noses, or that random ‘I want to wake up in the middle of the night’ playtime. It’s inevitable. Let’s not forget that they decide to wake up at the crack of dawn on the weekends, but want to sleep all morning during the week when you have places to be.
  • Forget about privacy. Just the other day my son had a massive meltdown because he wasn’t in the bathroom while I was taking a bath. He absolutely lost it. They will follow you to the bathroom, the kitchen, your bedroom. You’ll always have a little one watching you.
  • Half the time you’ll look a mess. I’m that mom who will doll her kids up, and make them look adorable while I’m sporting no makeup and a mom bun. The effort and time to get myself together is rare. I’ve come to not even care what I look like anymore. Then when I do get dressed up, I feel like a freaking queen!
  • Pick your battles. As much as I love for my kids to look amazing, if my son wants to wear two different socks, I let him. I’d much rather have him all mix matched then dealing with a meltdown. If my daughter keeps pulling out her ponytails, whatever. She can have crazy hair for the day. Sometimes it’s just easier that way.
  • Take one moment at a time. Things will rarely go as planned. It’s nearly impossible to plan a whole day without something having to get switched up. I now go with one activity at a time. If we have time for another, then we’ll do it. I’ve given up on creating an entire day worth of activities.
  • Baby wipes are life. If you’re a mom and don’t agree to this, I’m shocked. Those little wipes can be used to everything! Cleaning butts, cleaning faces, cleaning tables. They are the best thing ever! I’m pretty sure when my kids no longer use them, I’ll still buy them.
  • Always put extra food on your plate. My daughter is only 11 months old and already wants to eat what’s on my plate. Don’t even get me started with my 4-year-old. I tend to always put double on my plate of what I know they like to eat, because it never fails that half of it won’t be eaten by me.
  • If your kid wants to snuggle, then snuggle! As they get older is doesn’t come often. So, when they ask, do it! Even with my younger one. She’s on the move now so she barely wants to sit still, but when she does I soak up every single minute of it. I can’t get enough of it.
  • Your car will never be clean, probably for the next 18 years. You’ll start with baby toys and pacifiers, move on to toddler toys and snack crumbs, and end with sports bags and water bottles. It’ll be an ongoing battle for the next few years!
  • Coffee is your best friend. Before kids, I could go without coffee. Now a days, coffee is my best friend. I’ve learned to love it and I’m sure you will too (If you don’t already).
  • You will feel like you aren’t doing a good job some days. It will happen, you’ll feel the mom guilt. But always try to remember, tomorrow is a new day and those tiny humans will always love you no matter what happens!
  • Raising a child is difficult, no matter what age you are. I was a young mom. I had my son at 22. People tend to think having a child at younger age will be harder. But I disagree, being a mother at any age is hard.
  • The worrying never goes away. I thought once my little ones were older and more independent, I’d worry less. That’s not the case. My son is four and I still constantly worry about him. I don’t think that’ll ever change, even when their adults.
  • You’ll be late to things. This happens, a lot. My husband and I are constantly late to events. Usually it’s that we forget something for the kids, or we underestimate how long it takes to get all four of us ready. Don’t feel bad when it happens, usually everyone gets it.

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You’re Not a Bad Mom, It’s Just a Bad Day.

They last few weeks my daughter hasn’t been sleeping like she usually does. Teething is the devil. She’s extremely cranky, the house is mess because she wants to cling to me, and I can tell my son is feeling a little jealous because I’ve been trying to handle her being glued to my hip which cuts my play time with him in half. No matter how many times I try to let him know that since Liliana isn’t a big kid like he is, and that she needs mommy’s help a little more, he still gets upset.

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While trying to tend to my children’s needs, I often feel like I’m failing as a mother to both of my little ones. With Kyle, it’s feeling like I’m not spending enough time with him and having our one or one bonding time. With Liliana, it’s not being able to take away her pain and getting her back to her normal self. My son’s favorite words right now are “well nobody wants to play with me”, all while Liliana is screaming her head off because I put her down to try and accomplish some household chores. It rips my heart apart. Words can’t even begin to describe the guilt I feel while trying to clean and not playing with my kids. There is not enough time in the day to accomplish everything that needs to be done. It’s a daily struggle to get everything that I want completed along with tending to every need of my children.

Another thing that brings the ‘bad mom’ feelings out is disciplining my children. This is probably why my husband complains to me for always making him feel like the bad guy, or why my children don’t listen to me as well as they do him. Mommy lets them get away with A LOT. Don’t get me wrong, I yell at and discipline my kids constantly but that doesn’t mean it makes me feel complete crap afterwards. I am a full supporter of discipline. My children will not be raised without manners, but damn does it make my heart hurt. My children will never see that part of me though, the part where I feel bad doing it. I always stay strong in front of them. I must say though, something about that deep, masculine voice of my husband that makes the kids listen the first time around, is music to my ears.

Some nights I break down, shed a few tears. I talk to my husband about it and he reassures me that I’m doing a great job. Sometimes I even struggle to get to sleep at night because I question if I’m spending enough time with my kids. The last thing I want to do is let them down. As much as I want to spend every waking minute playing with them, a dirty house is often a trigger to get my anxiety to escalate.  When my house isn’t clean, it makes me feel unaccomplished and guilty that I’m not fulfilling my duties of being a stay at home mom. My husband works his butt off all day to give me this amazing life, the least I can do is keep our house clean. Also, anytime that my children act inappropriately while out in public or even at home, gets me going too. The last thing I want to do is look like I don’t know how to raise my kiddos.

After these past few weeks, I’ve came to realize that I am far from a bad mom. This is what motherhood is about. If anything has taught be to be strong it’s becoming a mother. Trying to manage time between chores and two kids is a task, but we always seem to figure out. Yelling at them might be difficult now, but I know I won’t regret it when they are older. Ever since I’ve gotten into blogging, reading other mom blogs and learning about their daily lives has made me realize we are all the same. We all go through this craziness, and even though every child is different and every mother’s way of disciplining is different, we deal with the same struggles of motherhood. None of us are alone.

My little boy always goes to bed at night saying he loves me so much, and my daughter smiles at me every night when I rock her to sleep. Raising them is difficult, but worth every minute of the bad days we always seem to overcome.

Always remember, you are not a bad mom. It’s just a bad day. We have all been there, and you’re doing an amazing job!

xoxo

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My Self-Care Routine

Happy Monday Ya’ll!

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One thing I’ve learned when I became a stay at home mom is that self-care is important. Trying to raise two tiny humans is hard and my anxiety skyrockets multiple times a day. I constantly get the fear that I’m not doing a good enough job raising my children because of it. Motherhood is without a doubt the hardest job anyone can ever experience. We give so much to others around us, we need to replenish ourselves. My routine always falls at the end of the day when my kids are asleep, or mid-morning while my daughter is napping and my son is still at Pre-k. I understand a lot of mothers say they simply don’t have time. But, self-care doesn’t need to be hours out of the day. It could be only 20 minutes by simply reading a few pages out of a book, or lowering the lights and resting your eyes for a few minutes. Every phase of motherhood is different, and every mother’s schedule is different, but I believe you can always find a few minutes out of the day to refresh your mind and keep your day running smoothly. I wanted to share my self-care routines and hopefully it’ll motivate other mothers to make time for themselves also.

 

“You owe yourself the love

 that you so freely give

to other people”

 

 

My nightly routine is a little more complex than my mid-morning routine.

 

  • Facial Cleansing. I am big on facial skin care, and this is my first step of relaxation. If I have any makeup on, it gets removed. I either do a mud mask or an exfoliation mask and follow up with a nightly moisturizer. A clean, fresh face boosts my confidence and makes me feel great.
  • Hot Bath. Something about a hot bath with some bubbles or a bath bomb puts my mind at ease. I’ll lay in my bath tub for about 30 minutes and just enjoy the quiet, which is something I don’t get often.
  • Gain Some Motivation. I spend a few minutes out my night on Pinterest reading some motivational quotes or posts. I like going to sleep with a positive mind set. I never like going to sleep with negativity. Reading something positive before bed makes my mood much happier in the mornings.
  • Talk to My Husband. I like to talk to my husband at night about my day. The good, the bad, the ugly… he hears it all. I’m sure he doesn’t like my venting, but you would never know. He listens to me, and that’s really relieving to me.
  • Going to Bed Early. I try not to stay up late. A good night’s rest is a great way to replenish your mind and prepare you for the next day. It’s easily one of best ways to boost my energy for the next day. I always try to get a good 7 to 8-hour nightly rest. Of course, that can be hard with children, but I always try to best.

 

 

My mid-morning routine is a lot shorter, and (usually) more upbeat.

 

  • Music. I try to put on a few of my favorite songs and sing my little heart out. I might even dance around a little. A good song and some crazy singing can always relieve some tension.
  • Exercise. I think you all know I’m into fitness. I try to get my workout routine in while my daughter naps. Somehow sweating like a pig is completely enjoyable.
  • Eye Masks. My mom bags are serious! I want nothing more than to get rid of these bags under my eyes. If you look back to my review on my winter FabFitFun Box, I received the Grace & Stella Anti-Wrinkle & Energizing Eye Masks. There are AMAZING. They make my eyes feel so energized and they bring life back to these exhausted eyes. I try to put these one a few times a week for a little pick me up.
  • Dim the Lights and Relax. If I’m super exhausted, I try to lower the lights and give myself a break also. I lay on the couch, mute the television and give myself some quiet time because when my son gets home, quiet is impossible!

 

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I hope all you moms find some time for yourself. You totally deserve it!

What do you do for self-care? I’d love to hear!

 

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The Last Month of Being Our Baby

11 Months.

Our little girl is just a month away from being ONE. I was looking on Timehop this morning of videos of her wiggling and hiccuping in my belly. I thought she’d never make her arrival. I was so impatient when it came to waiting for her birth day to come. And now it’s here, the last month of her as a baby. Let the countdown to ONE begin!

Liliana is my wild child. She’s the most loving little human, yet her sass and determination are strong. No matter what it is she wants, she goes for it. She’ll fall over, bump her head, get right back up and keep going. She’s a tough one. She also has that girly girl sass going on also. If something doesn’t go her way, you’ll know it. Those arms go flying and that screechy yell comes out (she might get all that sassiness from me, lol). She always thinks she’s going to miss something, so naps are rare with her. She keeps going and going until bed time, even that’s a struggle. My mother got her wish when she said “I hope you have a child who was just like you when you were younger”. Touché mom. I get it now. I was definitely a crazy one. Thank goodness car seats are more advanced now because that was my specialty, getting out of my car seat while my mother was driving.

Now for Liliana’s milestones… she’s killing it. She has her six teeth still. It was like all six came in at one time then they decided to take a break. She can now say Mama, Dada, Pop, Yes, Hi, Buh Bye, Uh Oh, Ke-Ke, & Rip (the last two are our pups, Keo and Ripken). She is standing on her own for short periods of time and her crawling is more like a speed crawl. She claps and copies everything her brother does. She’s always dancing. She loves her table food, yet she’s still teeny as ever. I wish I knew where it all went. I’m also starting to think she’s double jointed like me, because she bends all kinds of different ways. Gymnastics here we come!

This next month is going to be full of party planning and preparation. I don’t want to believe she’s already going to be one, but I’m so excited for the adventures ahead. Her personality is incredible. She’s definitely an extrovert, she’s going to be an outgoing one. I enjoy watching this little girly girl grow!

Follow me on Instagram for all the party planning and countdown to one, @katiecunni Follow the hashtag #LilianaMarieTurnsONE

It’s Christmas Eve Ya’ll!

 

Now being a mother, I look forward to the holiday season every year! Of course, I’m going to be MIA tomorrow so I want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas now! Tonight, we’re going to my cousin’s house to celebrate with my father’s side of the family. Kyle is so excited to go because all his cousins will be there and he can’t wait to give them their presents he helped wrap. He’s getting the Maui hook tonight from his Aunt & Uncle, so he is going to go crazy! Then on Christmas, the kid’s grandparents come up to our house super early, and we all open presents together from Santa. I am so blessed that the kids have such involved grandparents, where they don’t want to ever miss a thing.  I am a big family person, so I soak up every moment that everyone is together, because it doesn’t happen too often.

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What are your kids into this year? My son is all Paw Patrol. I’m also positive about 95% of his gifts are those cute little pups. He’s getting the Sea Patroller, The Life Size Lookout Tower, and every pup to go with it. Then let’s not forget the Hatchimal (thanks Nana!). To be honest, I’m kind of excited for this toy. I remember as a kid, we had the Tamagotchi’s and Furby’s. I LOVED those. Granted my mother had to take care of it half of the time so it didn’t die which I’m sure I’ll be doing the same, but he’s going to be SO excited when he opens it. Did I mention it’s the twins?! Let’s start his parenting skills early, so maybe he can see how much work us mothers do!

My Lilly Bear is easier this year. She’s at that age where it’s mainly learning toys, but it’s her first Christmas so I’m super excited! I am starting a tradition with her involving Disney Princesses, so she’ll be getting a few of those this year from her MomMom. I’m really excited for what I’m doing, so I’m sure I’ll share it once she’s a little older and we start! Besides that, she’s getting her first Barbie, along with some baby dolls. Her Nana is getting her a ride on car, so I’m sure she’ll enjoy sitting on that. I take her to a place called ‘Tumble Town’  often in York, and she could sit on the cars for hours. If she’s moving around, she’s happy. My girl doesn’t stop for nothing. She’s going to have an awesome First Christmas.

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Tonight, we’ll be sure to put our Christmas PJ’s on, watch some Christmas cartoons, leave out some cookies and milk for Santa… or should I say some beer & wine for Santa and Mrs. Claus 😉 and get a good night’s rest because we all know we’ll be up at the crack of dawn!

Merry Christmas everyone! I hope it’s a great one!

XO

 

Tips for Having a Successful Week

After a relaxing weekend especially during the holiday season, the last thing you want to see is Monday roll around. I know, as a stay at home mom you’re probably thinking “why is she so worried about a Monday, she doesn’t work 8 hour days”. Well, as a matter of fact we dread Monday’s too. Monday’s mean back to packing lunches, waking the kids up and getting ready for school, having to kiss your husband goodbye each morning and not seeing him all day, fixing dinners, and keeping the house clean. As a busy mom I’ve learned to make Monday’s more positive and less stressful.

Here’s some tips I’ve learned to help own not only Monday’s, but the entire week!

Always start off with a positive outlook. Never look at a new week as something stressful or exhausting. Look at it as a time to accomplish something new or as an opportunity to be able to progress in your life.

Set goals. Not only should you set goals, but be excited to accomplish those goals. Wake up Monday morning and be ready to kick some ass. If it helps, write those goals down in a visible location where you can read them each morning and check them off as your week progresses.

Make sure laundry is done. Fresh clothes for a fresh week is always the best. I never want to worry about doing laundry mid week or my son running out of matching socks. Which somehow he finds a way to lose a pair at least once a week.

Figure out dinner. Have your meals for the week already planned. Know what you’re cooking each day and double check that you have all of the ingredients before the week starts so you don’t have to run out and get something. I always leave the non-refrigerated ingredients on the counter the night before so all I have to do is start cooking when my husband gets home.

Have the kids ready. Just as stated above, have their lunches picked out for the week. Prep them in little baggies & label them for each day of the week so you know what day is each bag. I always prep the non refrigerated items in five different baggies and leave a space in the refrigerator for five cold items and five juice boxes, so all I do is make a sandwich then grab and go. Same applies for their outfits, I pick out five outfits for each day of the week and have them ready for the next morning on the kids dressers.

Meal prep. When I meal prep, it is a life savor for me. I always have to run and grab my son around lunch time, but as soon as I get back, I easily can grab a meal, eat it, and spend more of the afternoon with the kids. If you work full time, do the same for breakfast too! Put them together and make it a quick grab and go for the morning.

Set a day to pay bills. If you own a home, you know the bills stack up. They are alway due at different times, and it can be so confusing. I always choose a Monday morning to make sure all the bills are paid before they are late. If a bill is due before the following Monday, it gets paid at that time. I never like waiting until the last minute and thinking “did I pay that bill” while laying in bed.

Review the upcoming week. Double check if you have any doctors appointments or school functions coming up during the week. Not only do I keep them on my calendar in my iPhone, but I have a dry erase board right by my front door that I write on every Sunday to prepare me for places I need to be during the week. When the day is over, it gets erased.

Fill your tank. I don’t know about ya’ll, but I hate waking up on a Monday with an almost empty tank. The last thing I want to do is stop and fill it. Sunday’s I always make sure my tank is full or filled enough to where I don’t need to stop.

Make some time for yourself. This might be the most important. Don’t overbook yourself to where you’re constantly running and make some time to do something for you. It can help relieve stress and make your days run smoother. It could range from a simple bubble bath to dinner with your husband or friends.

Hopefully these tips help you as much as they help myself! What else do you do to help prepare for the week ahead? I’d love to hear!