What Mom’s Truly Want for Mother’s Day

We all know that us mothers love anything we get from our kids on Mother’s Day. The homemade cards and crafts, beautiful flowers, a gift card to the spa. Trust me they are all great, but if we had the chance to truly say what we really wanted, aside from the traditional gifts, I think we can all agree to the list I’ve created below.

We can always dream, right?!

 Mother’s Day or not, I’m sure we’re still ready to pull our hair out at times because the kids won’t stop complaining or you’ve already heard “Mommy” for the umpteenth time. Those flowers look pretty in that vase on the counter, but you still have to clean up the house at the end of the day that the kids destroyed with their Barbie dolls and LEGO’s.

Well… here’s a few of my not so ‘traditional’ gifts that I think we can all agree sound lovely as a mother.

 

Sleep. All hail sleeping! If I could go a week straight with 8 hours of solid sleep each night I would feel like a whole new woman. No interruptions, no crying at night, no dogs stealing my spot in bed. I’d be one happy Mama. Maybe not even a week, give me the weekend, or even one simple night. That’s all I really need.

One. Night.

Coffee automatically made, just the way I like it. If I could walk downstairs to my Keurig each morning with a fresh 12oz coffee made with a splash of caramel almond milk creamer and two Stevia’s, my mornings would run so much more smoothly. Between waking the kids up, getting them fed, and the getting the oldest ready for Pre-K, coffee is usually the last thing that gets done before rushing out the door. Or it just gets forgotten in general and that ride to Pre-K is excruciating.

Childcare in Target. I think we ALL can agree on this one! How amazing would it be to just walk into Target, drop the kids off at the childcare center and be able to shop… ALONE. I know I’d be a fan, and it would definitely make me visit more often if that meant the kids could get their energy out while playing as I did my shopping. I just hope my husband is ready for multiple shopping sprees going on the bank card.

For the kids to actually ask Dad. Oh, you know, instead of the kids completely walking past dad, who’s just lying on the couch watch sports and asking mom to fix a toy while she’s in the kitchen making dinner for everyone, they stop and see if dad can do it first. We all know that mommy is wonder women, but daddy can do it too. We promise. He is fully capable of just about anything.

For the kids to listen the first time around. Instead of asking for the 18th time to put their shoes on in the morning, they do it the first time asked. Or, when you tell them it’s bed time, they go right in bed and go to sleep instead of insisting they are thirsty or hungry, or need to use the bathroom even though they just used it five minutes ago.

A clean home. To wake up to a clean house every morning is probably a dream for everyone, not only us mothers. Why can’t there be little magical fairies that come into our home every night to clean and prepare for the next day. They’d get a hefty tip from me, no doubt about it.

A hot steamy uninterrupted bath. Just give me thirty minutes in the tub without my little ones throwing in their rubber duckies or yelling in the other room that they need help with something. Some peace and quiet while soaking in the tub with a LUSH bath bomb sounds absolutely wonderful.

 

I would love to put together a survey and get the opinions of other mothers to see what they’d truly want for Mother’s Day compared to the traditional gifts we receive each year. Let me hear them!

Happy Mother’s Day to all you wonderful mama’s!

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What I’ve Learned From Becoming a Mother

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When I became a mother, my entire life changed. During my first pregnancy I thought motherhood would be a breeze. I thought I knew it all and I was one hundred percent prepared.

“I read the baby books, I’m good”

Yeah… nope. I wasn’t good. I learned so much once my son was born, and even more when my daughter came along. Motherhood is one crazy, intense adventure. You will never have it all figured out. Every day of motherhood is completely different and your kids will always surprise you.

Here’s some things of what I’ve learned along the way! I’m sure you mama’s out there can all relate.

  • Silence is not If you have a toddler, you’ll understand. Unless they are sleeping at night, do not underestimate the silence. Chances are they into something they are definitely not supposed to be into!
  • Your house will never stay “magazine” clean. Let’s just be real. Little ones get into everything! They drop food on the floor, pull out every toy possible, put their fingers all over your windows. Trust me, I clean up multiple times a day to make my house look good enough. But, it will never be spotless.
  • Toys are pointless. I have bought numerous toys for my children over the years, and what do they play with? Tupperware, boxes, cups, etc. Half of their toys just lay around or eventually get packed up in boxes. I certainly don’t recommend going overboard with toys. If they want a new toy, tell them they should donate one first to another child who’s in need of toys.
  • Everything happens at the worst times. When we’re running late and rushing out the door, guess who decides to blow out her diaper last minute? Or my toddler, who decides to vomit in the car when we’re going somewhere that requires him to wear nice clothes. Always make sure you are prepared because anything can happen! I always pack extra, or give myself extra time.
  • Sleep is non-existent. Seriously, it’s not. You may think waking up every few hours only happens in the beginning, but no. There is the teething, the stuffy noses, or that random ‘I want to wake up in the middle of the night’ playtime. It’s inevitable. Let’s not forget that they decide to wake up at the crack of dawn on the weekends, but want to sleep all morning during the week when you have places to be.
  • Forget about privacy. Just the other day my son had a massive meltdown because he wasn’t in the bathroom while I was taking a bath. He absolutely lost it. They will follow you to the bathroom, the kitchen, your bedroom. You’ll always have a little one watching you.
  • Half the time you’ll look a mess. I’m that mom who will doll her kids up, and make them look adorable while I’m sporting no makeup and a mom bun. The effort and time to get myself together is rare. I’ve come to not even care what I look like anymore. Then when I do get dressed up, I feel like a freaking queen!
  • Pick your battles. As much as I love for my kids to look amazing, if my son wants to wear two different socks, I let him. I’d much rather have him all mix matched then dealing with a meltdown. If my daughter keeps pulling out her ponytails, whatever. She can have crazy hair for the day. Sometimes it’s just easier that way.
  • Take one moment at a time. Things will rarely go as planned. It’s nearly impossible to plan a whole day without something having to get switched up. I now go with one activity at a time. If we have time for another, then we’ll do it. I’ve given up on creating an entire day worth of activities.
  • Baby wipes are life. If you’re a mom and don’t agree to this, I’m shocked. Those little wipes can be used to everything! Cleaning butts, cleaning faces, cleaning tables. They are the best thing ever! I’m pretty sure when my kids no longer use them, I’ll still buy them.
  • Always put extra food on your plate. My daughter is only 11 months old and already wants to eat what’s on my plate. Don’t even get me started with my 4-year-old. I tend to always put double on my plate of what I know they like to eat, because it never fails that half of it won’t be eaten by me.
  • If your kid wants to snuggle, then snuggle! As they get older is doesn’t come often. So, when they ask, do it! Even with my younger one. She’s on the move now so she barely wants to sit still, but when she does I soak up every single minute of it. I can’t get enough of it.
  • Your car will never be clean, probably for the next 18 years. You’ll start with baby toys and pacifiers, move on to toddler toys and snack crumbs, and end with sports bags and water bottles. It’ll be an ongoing battle for the next few years!
  • Coffee is your best friend. Before kids, I could go without coffee. Now a days, coffee is my best friend. I’ve learned to love it and I’m sure you will too (If you don’t already).
  • You will feel like you aren’t doing a good job some days. It will happen, you’ll feel the mom guilt. But always try to remember, tomorrow is a new day and those tiny humans will always love you no matter what happens!
  • Raising a child is difficult, no matter what age you are. I was a young mom. I had my son at 22. People tend to think having a child at younger age will be harder. But I disagree, being a mother at any age is hard.
  • The worrying never goes away. I thought once my little ones were older and more independent, I’d worry less. That’s not the case. My son is four and I still constantly worry about him. I don’t think that’ll ever change, even when their adults.
  • You’ll be late to things. This happens, a lot. My husband and I are constantly late to events. Usually it’s that we forget something for the kids, or we underestimate how long it takes to get all four of us ready. Don’t feel bad when it happens, usually everyone gets it.

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You’re Not a Bad Mom, It’s Just a Bad Day.

They last few weeks my daughter hasn’t been sleeping like she usually does. Teething is the devil. She’s extremely cranky, the house is mess because she wants to cling to me, and I can tell my son is feeling a little jealous because I’ve been trying to handle her being glued to my hip which cuts my play time with him in half. No matter how many times I try to let him know that since Liliana isn’t a big kid like he is, and that she needs mommy’s help a little more, he still gets upset.

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While trying to tend to my children’s needs, I often feel like I’m failing as a mother to both of my little ones. With Kyle, it’s feeling like I’m not spending enough time with him and having our one or one bonding time. With Liliana, it’s not being able to take away her pain and getting her back to her normal self. My son’s favorite words right now are “well nobody wants to play with me”, all while Liliana is screaming her head off because I put her down to try and accomplish some household chores. It rips my heart apart. Words can’t even begin to describe the guilt I feel while trying to clean and not playing with my kids. There is not enough time in the day to accomplish everything that needs to be done. It’s a daily struggle to get everything that I want completed along with tending to every need of my children.

Another thing that brings the ‘bad mom’ feelings out is disciplining my children. This is probably why my husband complains to me for always making him feel like the bad guy, or why my children don’t listen to me as well as they do him. Mommy lets them get away with A LOT. Don’t get me wrong, I yell at and discipline my kids constantly but that doesn’t mean it makes me feel complete crap afterwards. I am a full supporter of discipline. My children will not be raised without manners, but damn does it make my heart hurt. My children will never see that part of me though, the part where I feel bad doing it. I always stay strong in front of them. I must say though, something about that deep, masculine voice of my husband that makes the kids listen the first time around, is music to my ears.

Some nights I break down, shed a few tears. I talk to my husband about it and he reassures me that I’m doing a great job. Sometimes I even struggle to get to sleep at night because I question if I’m spending enough time with my kids. The last thing I want to do is let them down. As much as I want to spend every waking minute playing with them, a dirty house is often a trigger to get my anxiety to escalate.  When my house isn’t clean, it makes me feel unaccomplished and guilty that I’m not fulfilling my duties of being a stay at home mom. My husband works his butt off all day to give me this amazing life, the least I can do is keep our house clean. Also, anytime that my children act inappropriately while out in public or even at home, gets me going too. The last thing I want to do is look like I don’t know how to raise my kiddos.

After these past few weeks, I’ve came to realize that I am far from a bad mom. This is what motherhood is about. If anything has taught be to be strong it’s becoming a mother. Trying to manage time between chores and two kids is a task, but we always seem to figure out. Yelling at them might be difficult now, but I know I won’t regret it when they are older. Ever since I’ve gotten into blogging, reading other mom blogs and learning about their daily lives has made me realize we are all the same. We all go through this craziness, and even though every child is different and every mother’s way of disciplining is different, we deal with the same struggles of motherhood. None of us are alone.

My little boy always goes to bed at night saying he loves me so much, and my daughter smiles at me every night when I rock her to sleep. Raising them is difficult, but worth every minute of the bad days we always seem to overcome.

Always remember, you are not a bad mom. It’s just a bad day. We have all been there, and you’re doing an amazing job!

xoxo

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Little White Lies We Tell Our Kids

Happy Saturday Ya’ll!

It’s no secret that us mothers tell some little white lies to our children. Sometimes it’s needed so we can avoid the tears and temper tantrums. I was out the other night and I started chatting with another mom about what us mothers fib about to keep things from our children. We were laughing for a good twenty minutes about it so I thought I’d share some to pass along. Some of these are honestly quite clever and I might start using some myself.

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  • Whenever my child wants some of my drink or snack, I tell him there is coffee in it. After that, he wants nothing to do with it
  • Take a battery out of an annoyingly loud toy and tell them the toy is “taking a nap”
  • Tell them you’re going “Number 2” so you can sit in the bathroom alone for 10 extra minutes (who hasn’t done this. Fathers included!)
  • When you sneak a piece of candy and they ask what it is, tell them it’s spinach or that it’s spicy
  • When you throw away some artwork, I tell my son they are going to the garbage men to hang up in their trucks
  • When you throw away a toy and they ask where it is, tell them you sent it to Santa’s elves to fix
  • If they touch any of the ornaments on the Christmas tree, it will take away the magic and Santa won’t come
  • If their small pet dies, tell them they went to visit their animal parents
  • If they lie, a red dot shows up on their forehead that only mommy and daddy can see
  • The ice cream truck only plays music when it’s out of ice cream
  • If my kid doesn’t behave in the drive-thru he will get a Sad Meal
  • If they swallow their gum, bubbles will blow out of their butt
  • If they unbuckle their seat belt in the car it will roll over
  • If you carry them, their legs won’t grow
  • Tell them they have a long-lost brother you dropped off at a gas station because they were being too loud in the car
  • If they want to hear a song again, tell them the singer needs to rest their voice or they won’t be able to sing that song anymore
  • If they don’t eat their vegetables, their birthday won’t come
  • If they don’t sit still during a haircut, the barber will cut their ear off
  • Tell them they need to keep an eye on you at all times while in the store so you don’t get kidnapped (no more wandering for them!)
  • If they start whining, you’ll have to take them to the doctors to get a shot to dry their tears

Some of these are genius and I would have never thought of some of these myself. What are your secrets? I’d love to hear!

xo

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